AITA : Grown Man Runs to Mummy When Wife Refuses to Pack His Lunch, MIL Calls Her a Terrible Wife

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elina lee
Apr 15, 2023 5:00 PM EDT

If you ask us what the joys of marriage are we'll tell you about the warm feeling of coming home to your person at the end of a long day. Or creating a home and a family with your best friend. But if you ask us what's the sorrow of marriage we'll tell you - the in-laws. Especially, a mother in law that thinks she can run your home better than you. Ouf. 

Today we're bringing you a story about an entitled husband and mother-in-law duo that pretty much ganged up on a pregnant stay-at-home wife. After a weird turn of events, MIL lost her accommodation and was forced to move in with her son, his expecting wife, and their two children. If you know mothers-in-law, you know they like to give out unsolicited advice and re-arrange furniture - and that's exactly what she did but worse. 

Have a read for yourself, there's plenty of drama and all we can say to this husband is it's time to be on team wife instead of team mommy. 

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway_tiredmom_ 22 hours ago WIBTA for refusing to pack my husband's lunch?
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    Font - My husband (35M) and I (28F) have 2 beautiful children (5M, 3F) and I am currently pregnant with my third child.
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    Font - Recently, my MIL has fallen onto hard times and lost her apartment. My husband invited her to live with us, which I wasn't originally happy about because with the little one on the way I wanted time to focus on our family, but I ultimately understood that it's a special circumstance.
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    Font - The problem is that MIL has really changed since she got here. We used to have a relatively good relationship, but she's increasingly been demanding and unreasonable. I know it's a hard time, so I've tried to be accommodating, but it's all getting to be too much.
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    Font - For example, she's been asking that we buy specific brands when getting groceries, which would be fine if they were just for her, but she's been insisting that the cereal brand we feed my kids isn't healthy and they have to eat a different brand. The one we buy is the one they like and it's not particularly unhealthy as far as cereals go. She's also been moving our furniture around, primarily the guest room that she's staying in but recently she had my husband swap the couch and the armch
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    Our blood is boiling just reading this. We could neeeverrrr have a guest rearrange our furniture. They'd be out the door in minutes. 

  • 06
    Font - All this is fine, I love my husband and my MIL and can understand what she's going through, so I can deal with it. It all finally came to a boiling point last night.
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    Font - My husband and I have been having a disagreement lately. Usually, my husband makes his own lunch to take with him to work. However, since I've recently quit my job to become a stay at home mom, he thinks I should start making his lunch along with the children's lunches. My husband goes to work an hour and a half before the children go to daycare. I currently wake up around the time he leaves for work and have plenty of time to get the kids ready and make their lunches. If I were to make h
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    Font - Apparently, he complained to his mother about it, because she confronted me last night about being a bad wife. In her words, I'm "not good enough" for her son if I can't even "make this one sacrifice to make him happy".
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    Font - Being confronted like this just made me so mad and I don't even know why. I snapped and yelled back at her and said some things I regret.
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    Font - Now my husband expects me to give my MIL an apology and start packing his lunch, and neither of them are talking to me until then.
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    Font - My husband and I have never had problems like this before. He's always been so good to me. I'm worried that I'm overreacting and making and already difficult time even harder. I've never snapped like that before but I just feel so overwhelmed and I don't have anyone in real life to talk to about this because my family doesn't understand my relationship with my husband and don't support us. Reddit, WIBTA if I held my ground?
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    Font - PaleGarlic8078 22 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Nta. A grown ass man who can't even make his own lunch is pathetic. 4 8.5k Reply Share
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    Font - Reasonable-Abalone 20 20 hr. ago And goes crying to mummy?? Pathetic is putting it mildly. ✩ 4.9k Reply Share
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  • 14
    Font - MattJFarrell 16 hr. ago I can almost guarantee that she never plans on leaving.
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    Font - tifftack14 16 hr. ago Not unless her son tells her, too, which isn't likely.
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    Font - no-one-cares8675309. 8 hr. ago Also, her parents don't support the relationship. Me thinks they saw him for what he is.
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    Font - Apart Foundation1702 15 hr. ago . edited 15 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Husband sounds like a mummy's boy. He was a bad idea to move her in, she has already started to drive a wedge between OP and her husband. I bet the sandwich idea was his mothers. OP you need to get that woman out of your house ASAP! Even it it means put down the deposit to a flat for her and claiming for social security benefits on he behalf! Just get her out of your house. NTA
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    Font - BelkiraHoTep 14 hr. ago Partassipant [4] · The part about OP not having anyone to talk to about this because her family "doesn't understand my relationship with my husband and doesn't support us...." like what's that about? That's a little concerning, in addition to everything else in the post.
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    Font - KCarriere 14 hr. ago This is a huge red flag OP just dropped on her way out the door.
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